Love is a feeling and our feelings should be based on whatever Jesus commands them to be. One of his commands, is that we love him. Not a weak love, but a love that exceeds even the love of our family.
You might be wondering, ''How do I love someone who I've never met before, more than my family?'' Well, if you are in the family of God, you can't help but love him more than anything else John8:42- Jesus said to them, ''If God were your father, you would love me for I came from God and now am here. I have not come on my own; but he sent me.''
Love is an action as well as a feeling and it is an action because when you love God you obey him Jesus said ''If you love me you will obey what I command(John 14:15). But loving God does not just mean that we obey him, we obey him because we love him.
We were God's enemies, yet he loved us and made us his sons and daughters and now he commands us to love our enemies as he did. He has forgiven the ultimate debt, our sin. We can never love as he loves nor can we ever forgive as he does. But we must still strive to forgive and love more.
Matt 10:37- ''Anyone who loves his father or mother more than me is not worthy of me; anyone who who loves his son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me.'' Being worthy of him does not mean that we deserve him, it means if we love him more than anything then we are loving him as he deserves to be loved.
I know that I do not love God as he deserves to be loved, my selfish desires and sin cloud his worthiness. My only hope is in Romans 5:5- and hope does not put us to shame, because God's love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us. I don't have the ability to love God, God gives me the ability to love him. As Augustine said in Confessions, ''Give me the grace [O Lord] to do as you command, and command me to do what you will.